Maybe It’s Not a Marital Problem, Maybe It’s a Holiday Problem

Posted on January 10, 2020 by Marta Papa

I’ve discussed Holiday Marital False Alarm Syndrome which predictably arises each year in December throughout many households. That’s why it does not come as a surprise each January when my calendar is quickly filled with divorce consultations. However, some couples are surprised by the outcome of their appointment with me. By making a divorce mediation appointment and …

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Creating New Traditions During and After the Divorce Process

Posted on December 5, 2019 by Marta Papa

The holidays are rough for families going through divorce. They can bring up strong emotions including sadness and loneliness During and after divorce, old holiday traditions become obsolete and it becomes necessary to create new holiday memories. This creation of new traditions is particularly important for children because it will allow them to preserve positive …

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The Imperative of Self-Care for Divorcing Parents: Arranging Social Options During Holidays

Posted on November 30, 2019 by Marta Papa

A client of mine from some years ago, Mrs. X, chose a proactive stance in tackling her first Thanksgiving holiday alone after her divorce. Determined to not simmer in a sulk and drown herself in solitude with a bottle of dry Chardonnay, she chose to serve the impoverished instead.  Ironically, by nourishing the needy in …

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When, Where, and How to Deliver Your Divorce Script to Your Children

Posted on November 13, 2019 by Marta Papa

In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? …

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Scripting the News of Your Divorce for Your Children

Posted on November 13, 2019 by Marta Papa

Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children. Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led …

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