SAVING YOURSELF, YOUR MONEY, AND YOUR CHILDREN DURING DIVORCE
We’ve talked about how filing your tax returns changes when you get divorced. Another major change that accompanies divorce is your health care coverage. Similar to filing for taxes, health insurance may not be top-of-mind during the divorce process, but it’s important to know what’s going to change so you don’t put yourself or your children at …
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Is there a way to make divorce less stressful and more affordable? Yes. And it all sums up to “mediation”. How It’s Less Stressful Mediation is less stressful because spouses are in charge of decision making. It allows a couple to handle their affairs rather than letting the legal system take control. Having more control …
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The winter holidays are a notoriously troubling time for many families. Research demonstrates time and again that the excess of emotion, alcohol consumption, family arguments, spousal disputes, and situational depression escalate predictably during December. Not to mention, the holidays are expensive. You are likely working with a compromised and tight budget but with high expectations …
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Here is the truth you need to put front and center in your brain now and forever: Conflict between you and your spouse is poison for your child. Years of research across multiple disciplines have found this to be indisputable. But while conflict is poisonous to children, that isn’t to say divorce is poison. We …
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Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce: Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids. After …
Family holidays and get-togethers are often a catalyst for divorcing parents to bring unnecessary personal distress upon themselves, each other, and, ultimately, their children. Fortunately, the counter-defense to such a consequence is rather simple: the priority of healthy choices in self-care. A Story From My Files About the Need for Self-Care Some years ago, I was …
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The first year after a divorce can be particularly difficult as ex-spouses learn how to navigate life as divorceés. While filing for taxes may not be top-of-mind after divorce, it’s important to understand how this life change will affect your taxes, and more importantly your tax refund. Filing taxes after divorce is complicated. Here are …
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Through divorce, your ultimate focus is to not allow your children to become the real causalities. If children feel compelled through the immaturity of their divorcing parents to either choose a side or are forced to feel protective of one parent over the other, then the responsibility for the children’s heightened current distress and even …
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The most crucial change any married couple can make in their most intimate relationship is the decision to divorce. I have addressed how to create a script for the news of the divorce to help you most thoroughly and thoughtfully prepare in advance to reveal this devastating news to your children. Always remember that both parents share equal …
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Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions. Reactions Are Unique to Each Child …
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