SAVING YOURSELF, YOUR MONEY, AND YOUR CHILDREN DURING DIVORCE
We’ve talked about how filing your tax returns changes when you get divorced. Another major change that accompanies divorce is your health care coverage. Similar to filing for taxes, health insurance may not be top-of-mind during the divorce process, but it’s important to know what’s going to change so you don’t put yourself or your children at …
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Here is the truth you need to put front and center in your brain now and forever: Conflict between you and your spouse is poison for your child. Years of research across multiple disciplines have found this to be indisputable. But while conflict is poisonous to children, that isn’t to say divorce is poison. We …
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Many people who come to see me seem to think one or all of the following myths about divorce: Divorce is going to be the answer to all my problems. Divorce will cost me money and be an unpleasant process, but after it’s final, I will be just fine and so will the kids. After …
Through divorce, your ultimate focus is to not allow your children to become the real causalities. If children feel compelled through the immaturity of their divorcing parents to either choose a side or are forced to feel protective of one parent over the other, then the responsibility for the children’s heightened current distress and even …
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The most crucial change any married couple can make in their most intimate relationship is the decision to divorce. I have addressed how to create a script for the news of the divorce to help you most thoroughly and thoughtfully prepare in advance to reveal this devastating news to your children. Always remember that both parents share equal …
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Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions. Reactions Are Unique to Each Child …
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The holidays are rough for families going through divorce. They can bring up strong emotions including sadness and loneliness During and after divorce, old holiday traditions become obsolete and it becomes necessary to create new holiday memories. This creation of new traditions is particularly important for children because it will allow them to preserve positive …
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In my article Scripting the News of Your Divorce for your Children, I provide an idea of how to prepare the news of divorce to your kids. Having a script that stays on-message and is well-practiced is important because this content matters. What’s also important is the context in which that content is delivered. When? Where? …
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Delivering the news of divorce to children is a difficult task. That’s why it’s imperative that divorcing parents have a pre-planned script outlined and rehearsed before breaking the news to their children. Though you may be hyperaware of your marital issues, your children may be entirely unaware that irreconcilable discord in your marriage has led …
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