SAVING YOURSELF, YOUR MONEY, AND YOUR CHILDREN DURING DIVORCE
Mediation is an option when one or both parties are concerned with privacy during divorce. In divorce mediation, there are: No public court hearings; No depositions; No submissions of evidence; No courtroom testimony; No discovery. To further maintain privacy, in mediation, we can file your divorce documents in a different county so nothing is filed …
Many people find it difficult to cohabitate during separation. Emotions are typically running high and it is common for one or both spouses to be feeling angry and hostile toward the other. Different factors come into play in determining whether one party should move out of the home. Both parties have equal right to occupancy. …
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Children often experience divorce as an intense loss—“the loss of a parent, the loss of the family unit, or simply the loss of the life they knew. You can help your children grieve their loss and adjust to new circumstances by helping them express their emotions.” 1 Always Listen. Encourage your children to share their feelings and be …
While divorce is never an anticipated outcome when couples join together in marriage, it continues to be a likely outcome. In the US, a recent breakdown of divorce statistics remains sobering: 41% of first marriages end in divorce 60% of second marriages end in divorce 73% of third marriages end in divorce Couples who are …
I have six recommendations for couples who are looking for a mediator. Ask about their training and if they are court-approved mediators. Ask about the number of meditations they’ve successfully completed. Interview more than one mediator and see who you feel is knowledgeable, keeps the playing field level and you feel comfortable talking to and …
I strongly believe a divorcing couple should always consider the possibility of using mediation so they can make their own decisions about their divorce– instead of leaving it up to two attorneys and a judge. So who can mediate? Nearly any couple of spouses can mediate if they are civil enough to one another that they can …
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Once you have decided with certainty that a divorce is in your best interest, I recommend following these four steps: 1. Back Off From Social Media This first step is essential. If you are unhappy in your marriage, it is not unusual for others to know about it, especially if you are inclined to share personal …
Your resolution to co-parent with maturity and your mutual insistence upon the welfare of your children at this time are commendable. To that end, you have an agreed-upon script and an appropriate setting in place. Now, it is time to prepare for the audience’s response to this family drama: your children’s reactions. Reactions Are Unique to Each Child …
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Through divorce, your ultimate focus is to not allow your children to become the real causalities. If children feel compelled through the immaturity of their divorcing parents to either choose a side or are forced to feel protective of one parent over the other, then the responsibility for the children’s heightened current distress and even …
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The most crucial change any married couple can make in their most intimate relationship is the decision to divorce. I have addressed how to create a script for the news of the divorce to help you most thoroughly and thoughtfully prepare in advance to reveal this devastating news to your children. Always remember that both parents share equal …
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